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Lowestoft: Norfolk and Suffolk Broads

Location Somerleyton, Suffolk (between Lowestoft and Great Yarmouth)
Area of operation Norfolk and Suffolk Broads – River Waveney
Type of boat Broadland Grebe. Traditional vintage Broads motor cruiser built in 1958.
Duration of trip As required, usually 1-2 hours but longer by prior arrangement.
Capacity of boat 4/5 plus crew of 2
Refreshments Light refreshments can be arranged on board or at local pub in Somerleyton.
Suitable urns Scattering ashes directly onto the water can lead to them being blown about which some families may find distressing. We supply a wide range of urns specifically designed for water ceremonies. They are all 100% biodegradable and will dissolve in water – please follow the link: Water Urns

We also supply a water ceremony set which includes a water urn, flower petals for scattering, Promises – dissolvable notelets for scattering with the ashes, a certificate to record the ceremony, and our award winning (and rated 5* on Amazon) guide book: follow the link – 4th Ceremony Set

Cost From £150 depending upon services required.
Company comments We are able to provide a bespoke ashes scattering ceremony on the Broads from a vintage wooden Broads motor cruiser. Ceremonies can be conducted by a Church of England minister or trained civil celebrant. Although based at Somerleyton, we can cover other areas of the Broads by prior arrangement (additional fees may apply). Due to weather conditions we operate May- end of October.
Disabled Access Not available on board
Parking Can be arranged at Somerleyton

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Training course

Training Course: Scattering or Interring of Cremated Remains

Training Course: Scattering or Interring of Cremated Remains

Training Course. There is a growing trend for funerals to focus on the ashes element of the ceremony which is a very positive development. However, often those doing the scattering will have received little or no formal training. A small investment in staff training will have two major benefits, it will increase personal development for every trainee, and will provide a better customer service for your families.

Scattering Ashes has teamed up with Civil Ceremonies Ltd , the market leaders in ceremonies in the UK, to offer the first nationwide accredited training course on scattering or interring of ashes.

The course aims to enable cremation staff to create and deliver a personal ceremony for families who are scattering or interring cremated remains.

The course will include:

  • How to interview a bereaved family to obtain the information required to create a ceremony.
  • Creation of an appropriate and bespoke ceremony for mourners that encourages appropriate participation and the use of poetry and verse,
  • How to organise the mourners,
  • How to strew and scatter the ashes in a dignified and culturally appropriate way,
  • How to deliver an ashes ceremony and support mourners.

Accreditation
Participants who successfully complete the one day course will be awarded with a level one course credit value 1 from the issuing body ONE Awards. This is a government approved training scheme which provides access to HE diplomas.

Who should attend?
This course is designed for persons and organisations who are looking to deliver a more professional service around the scattering or interning of ashes, and for organisations interested in staff development.

Size: Small groups up to a maximum of 10 attendees

Duration: full day

Course Location

Devon: The course is delivered here in Devon in a beautiful location on the edge of Dartmoor. We can also provide good value accommodation and excellent locally sourced meals for a small additional sum tailored specifically to your needs and dietary requirements. We can provide meals & accommodation, from a simple lunch to an overnight stay with Bistro dining experience. Please contact us for the full range of options.
Cost: £185pp*

On site: We are very happy to come to your premises and deliver training directly to your staff on site using your specific location and premises. We require a minimum of 6 people per course.
Cost: £185pp*

* cost includes all course materials, certification & handbook.

To discuss or make further enquiries please email info@scattering-ashes.co.uk or call 01392 581012

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Scattering Ashes Service

Scattering Ashes Service across the UK and overseas

Scattering Ashes Service

Scattering Ashes Service across the UK and overseas. Are you looking for your loved one’s ashes to be scattering at a particular destination within the UK or overseas but are unable to do this yourself? We can help.

Many of us will have a place in mind that we want our ashes to be scattered over after we have gone. This can sometimes be difficult for family or friends to co-ordinate, especially if they are overseas. Do you need permission? How do you arrange the transportation of the ashes? Can you take the time away from work or home to scatter the ashes in the chosen location? It can be very difficult and we can help arrange this for you.

Your loved one’s ashes will be treated with the greatest of respect at all times. You will receive a picture of the ashes scattering service along with a certificate with the exact location so that you or future generations can visit at a later date. The certificate is included in the price, you can add a other ceremony items such as petals or seedballs for a small additional price. We can even arrange to have them scattering on water, for our boat service see this link.

Each Scattering Ashes Service request will be assessed on an individual basis and the price will be dependent upon the location (distance and travelling costs) and any permission factors.

If you would like a quote please fill in the form below and we will get back to you as soon as possible.

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*Please note we will always try our very best to fulfil requests however some locations are unavailable due to legal reasons, for general guidance see our advice page on permissions.

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Over 19 Million Thais offered sandalwood flowers for the king’s cremation

The offering of Sandalwood flower for cremation is Thailand is symbolic, after the Thai king’s death (Bhumibol Adulyadej) in May this year the new king organised a project so that the public could learn how to make these flowers so that they could present these flowers as an offering for at king’s cremation.

The traditional sandalwood flowers have been made from fragrant trees taken from the Kui Buri National Park in Prachuap Kiri Khan.

Over 19 million people came to present flowers at 878 officially prepared venues across the country.  In Bangkok up to 2.9 million people laid sandalwood flowers.

These flowers were cremated and the ashes were then ceremonially scattered on the rivers around the country.

 

 

 

 

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Filling and using a Scatter Tube: Video

One of the most popular types of scattering urn is a scatter tube, we stock a huge variety of designs and sizes.

We have sizes that are suitable for adult, two average sizes adults, half a set of ashes and token amount of ashes.

We have around twenty different designs from bluebell woods and autumn forest to ocean beach and those sports fans we have options such as tennis rackets or football.

Range of Scatter Tubes

Each one comes with instructions, but sometimes it is just easier to watch someone, so in this video we show you how to fill and then use a scatter tube.

We have an emerging Youtube channel – Scattering Ashes YouTube with lots of help and advice. Have a look and subscribe.

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What to do with ashes? 12 things to consider: VIDEO

When you get the ashes back from the funeral directors it can seem very daunting. You wont know what to do for the best, there may be relatives wanting one thing or another.

However, there are a number of things you may not have considered, why would you? Over the years we have listened to a lot of people and heard a lot of issues and concerns, so we thought we should share them.

This video highlights twelve things you should consider, but most important of all is DON’T RUSH TO DECIDE

For more highly informative videos visit and subscribe to our YouTube Channel – Scattering Ashes YouTube

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Ashes into Fireworks video – Self-fire Rockets

Ashes into Fireworks video – Self-fire Rockets

Fireworks are a fabulous option for a spectacular send-off, watch our ashes into fireworks video to see how one family gave their loved one a truly memorable send-off.

The rockets are powerful, colourful and will make any fire ceremony go with a bang.

Ashes into fireworks

You have two choices if you want to put your loved one’s ashes into fireworks :

  • An organised Firework Display: which can take all the ashes, but you are fixed to a certain location such as a sports club, to see more on click here Firework Displays
  • Self-fire Fireworks: take a portion of the ashes (200grams ) but you can be more flexible in terms of location and timings as they are portable – to see more details and to order now click here Self-fire firework rockets

Both options have different effects and will suit different ceremonies for a full break-down of the differences you might find our fireworks blog here useful.

If you would like to discuss the options please do feel free to call us on 01392 581012 or email us on info@scattering-ashes.co.uk

Scattering Ashes YouTube Channel

If you want to see more videos about other options for celebrating the life of a loved one by doing something meaningful with their ashes please have a look at our YouTube Channel. We regularly update it with product details, ceremonies and ideas of what to do with your loved one’s ashes.

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Scattering ashes on a windy day: how not to do it!!

Scattering ashes on a windy day. When a scattering ashes ceremony goes wrong it often becomes a story in many a family’s mythology. The truth is scattering ashes and the wind don’t often mix well.

This poor lady gets it almost entirely wrong.

Her son filming it, sees the funny side. His mum trying to be serious realises her planning left a little to be desired.

So lessons learnt:

  • Wind and Height – the higher you go the windier it is
  • Bridges are windy because they are more exposed
  • Check to see if there is anything to prevent you from scattering the ashes – in this case a high barrier on the bridge and a ledge beneath it become major obstacles.

I don’t often join in the chorus of hilarity in such things, one has to sympathy for the poor woman  – I doubt this was her intention when she planned her mum’s send off, although the son’s infectious laughter is difficult to resist!

We’ve got lots of helpful advice about everything relating to ashes on our award winning advice pages.

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How long do Floating Ball Urns float for?

Water Ceremonies are increasingly popular way to Celebrate the life of a loved one and there are many types of water urns you can choose from. Each urn works in a slightly different way.

The floating ball is a popular choice for many people. The common question is who long will it float for?

We have put them to the test.

We tested three, with ashes weighing 5lbs (the average weight of ashes for a female), then 7lbs (the average weight of ashes for a male) and 6lbs which is the average weight of ashes. We let thi one rest in the water to see how long it took to break down.

Note: we refer to the weight of the ashes. Note the weight of the ashes and the urn combined. These floating balls used in this test weigh 2kg / 4.4lbs

Results:

  • Make sure the glue seals the urn completely.
  • The weight is not the only important factor (glue was the other).
  • If the urn is sealed completely it may float for around 20 minutes.
  • We don’t think the urns will float if the weight of the ashes is greater than 7 1/2 lbs / 3.4 Kg.
  • The actual duration is down to many reasons and actual timings cannot be accurately predicted.
  • The urn will break down in around 45 minutes.

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What to do with ashes - guide

A new free short guide: What to do with Ashes now – available to people working with bereaved families

We have been blogging and writing on the subject of ashes for a several years now, and we have produced  a lot of guidance on what people could do with ashes. However, until now we have only had this information available on the website and our booklet*.

The good news is we have taken the main points and put them into a small 4 sided guidance note that we are making free to funeral directors, celebrants, hospices, bereavement counsellors to be able to give out.

The guide highlights the major issues that people might not have thought of, it also address issue most people are concerned, lastly it lists some of the options available to them concerning what can be done with the ashes: from fireworks and ashes into jewellery, to keeping the ashes in a garden sculpture or sending them off ablaze in a replica viking boat!

The guide is intended to help bereaved families feel confident choices in memorialising their loved one.

If you are interested in receiving a sample or a batch just let us know: info@scattering-ashes.co.uk or call us on 01392581012

* [ Celebrating the Life of a Loved One: what to do with their ashes – rated 5* on Amazon]

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On my way to the Blue Ridge Mountains

The crematorium run by Cremation Services Inc. of Winston-Salem has had its license suspended by North Carolina Board of Funeral Services. Why? Well one of its employees had 93 unclaimed sets of ashes stored in his home in North Carolina. A neighbour noticed bone fragment and ashes near to the man’s dustbin and reported it to the authorities who investigated and found the large collection at the man’s house.

Susanne Blair of Cremation Services says the employee had permission to take the remains of the unclaimed bodies, since his home in the town of King was on the way to the Blue Ridge Mountains, where he planned to scatter the ashes.

Stokes County prosecutors say no law was broken. Regulators scheduled a hearing for May 10.

Umm, interesting…there are several issues going on here. Whilst there is no law broken is the company morally right? Well in some respects they are perhaps doing the decent thing in that they were intending to lay the ashes to rest in somewhere peaceful, but I think the way they went about it was a little naïve, perhaps their familiarity with the subject has dimmed their sense to what the wider public would expect.

It may have been perhaps more sensible to, inform the regulators, do it in small amounts and go directly there missing out the garage part. The other interesting part which casts doubt on the act is that the neighbour noticed bone and ash fragments which suggests one of two things: either there was a lot of bone so it was noticeable and its proximity to the waste bin suggests that the blue ridge mountains was only the theoretical destination or that there was only a small amount and a very nosey neighbour…

I guess if funeral directors are intending to do something similar it may be wise to publicise the fact first and opting for a bit more ceremony – if you going to do the right thing then actually do it.

And look no comments of witches of Salem angle or Laurel and Hardy….

 

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Scattering Ashes in Fireworks – Peony Display Video – Beautiful

Scattering Ashes Peony Display

Peony Display – Ashes into Fireworks

Thinking of a spectacular send of a ashes scattering ceremony with a Bang. Here is one option the Peony display joyous powerful and we consider to be real value for money for the amount of work that goes into to producing such a wonderful display.

The display is organised on your behalf including permission where appropriate (and possible), all the ashes are placed inside fireworks. Finishing in a spectacular display and a wonderful celebration of a life.

£950 – inc VAT (correct at the time of publishing)

A Peony display is a dramatic and proud tribute in fireworks to the loved one departed.

With a wide selection of colourful and at times noisy fireworks, this display celebrates the joy of life in no uncertain terms.

Duration: 7 minutes
Choice of colours: Yes
Choice of effects: Yes
Music: No

To see the complete range of displays – Ashes into Fireworks

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Celebrant: Sarah Chapman, South Devon

Name: Sarah Chapman

Base: Newton Abbot

Area covered: South Devon

The celebrant:

I have a national qualification Level 3 Diploma in Funeral Celebrancy (QCF) and I am a Member of the Institute of Civil Funerals (M.I.C.F.)

As a Celebrant I will help you create and then conduct your unique and individual Funeral and Scattering of Ashes Ceremony where ever and whenever you wish.  My role is to offer bereaved families a ceremony that reflects the wishes, beliefs and values of the deceased and their family.  It will focus on celebrating and reflecting the life of the deceased and the tribute will be respectful and highly personal.  Whilst not a religious ceremony as such, religious content may be included.

I also offer paper hearts of Forget-me-not seeds.  Once you have planted them, year after year the flowers will blossom in memory of your loved one.

Cost: Please enquire

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Natural Scattering and burial site: White Peak in the Peak District

It is difficult to think of a more stunning location for a loved one’s ashes to be scattered or buried than White Peak in the Peak District and to have their name carved into a beautiful memorial plaque and set into a natural drystone wall.

Your loved one can be commemorated as a part of a living, timeless landscape. Through partnership with the Forestry Commission the company’s memorials provide certainty that your memorial will be a discrete and personal part of the public forest estate with permanent public access.

Unlike many cremation memorial sites these memorials are not let out for a brief 10 or 25 year period, they are permanent. Once bought the memorial will stand at least until 2114, and thereafter be unlikely to ever be demolished.

This Derbyshire sites are within easy reach of Sheffield, Manchester, Birmingham, Nottingham and Derby. The local communities of Cromford, Matlock, Ashbourne, Buxton, Wirksworth Hope and the rest of the Peak District are within easy reach.

There are two options available for you:

 Type One – The Name

A 20cm x 10 cm cremation memorial plaque inscribed with the deceased name and critical dates inscribed in Optima Font and permanently fixed to the memorial wall.

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Scattering Ashes Site: White Peak Plaque

Price: £1000 including vat

Type Two – The Signature

A 20cm x 10 cm cremation memorial plaque inscribed with the deceased name and critical dates, the deceased signature is etched into the plaque and permanently fixed to the memorial wall. This use of the distinct graphology of the person’s signature permanently and deeply personalises the memorial.

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Scattering Ashes: White Peak Plaque 

Price: £1500 including vat

Once the plaque is in place, ash interment or scattering within the designated area can take place, they can bury the ashes for you, or you may scatter them yourself.

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Steam Railway: an ashes send off with a toot toot!

Steam trains are so enigmatic. They epitomise an age of style and engineering and they are a passion for many of us in the UK and beyond.

Well there may be an opportunity for you to have your ashes blown from the ash box (I think I have correct).

The South Devon Railway Trust – the organisations runs the South Devon Railway operates  a line that runs for seven mile along the stunning valley of the River Dart between Buckfastleigh and Totnes.

It is a former Great Western Railway branch line, built in 1872.

Well they will consider a steam train send off for a donation (unspecified to us). They don’t want to make a big fuss about this so if it is something you think would be appropriate you will need to discuss it with them.

The gentleman to contact is Mr John Haslam email: john.haslam@southdevonrailway.org or call 01364 644375

Best of luck, it sounds like a wonderful idea to us!!

 

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Scattering Ashes is the nation’s favourite choice!

Fact: 79% of those wishing to be cremated want their ashes scattered.

Which means about 2/3rds of us in total (80% of people are cremated).

The result of a recent YouGov survey confirmed what we have believed for years, if you want to be cremated then most of you want your ashes to be scattered.

The survey of 1,546 adults did throw up some interesting results, firstly 58% prefer cremation when they die, in comparison with 17% of those who would opt for burial. When in fact around 80% of us end up being cremated. The survey pointed to the fact that the older we got the more we tended to choose cremation. While 42% of 18 to 24-year-olds wish to be cremated, this figure rises to 71% among the over-65s. Their spin on it was “perhaps as our bodies wear out and we no longer idolise the idea of trying to preserve them.” I would tend to think the older we get the more practical we get.

So if 79% want to be cremated what do the others want? 7% want their ashes to be kept after they’ve been cremated. The rest ‘don’t know’

The survey also addressed four other questions relating to death and funerals:

  • How long do you want to live for?
  • Are you frightened of death?
  • Is it appropriate to wear colours at a funeral?
  • What about a will?

Covering the first two:

Asked how long they would like to live for, at 44% the most popular answer was to be between 81 and 100 years old. The current UK life expectancy is 81, according to data from the World Bank. This age range was the most popular choice across all age groups, with those aged 65 and older being the most keen at 60%.

Only a fraction of people seem to want to live for as long as they possibly can. The highest option – to live to be 110 or older – was chosen by just 14% of people overall and this figure was broadly consistent across all age groups. Men, however, are significantly more likely to choose this option than women, with 19% of men wanting to live to be 110 or older compared to 9% of women.

Despite their desire to live for longer, men are significantly less likely to be scared of death than women, with nearly six in ten (58%) of men saying they were not afraid of death compared to 42% of women. Overall, half of the population say that they are not afraid of death, whilst a third (32%) say that they are and two in ten (19%) don’t know.

Discussing the results with a friend he came up with a rather witty observation: it is not surprising that blokes aren’t as freighted as death as women, apparently they seem to be convinced it’s further off..

Well we know statistically men don’t live as long, but I would imagine culturally it is more difficult for men to say they are frightened. This is a very tangled web to unweave…

So colours at a funeral. Unsurprisingly the newer you are to the game the more reserved you are, younger people felt safer in black where the older you get the less it seemed to matter.

Wearing black is now only seen as a requirement at funerals by 22% of people. Twice as many (45%) think that wearing other colours is ok, so long as they are dark and sombre, whilst another 29% think it is ok to wear any colour clothing to a funeral.

My take on this: colour is not the issue, it is all about thought and effort, I would much prefer to see someone at a funeral in a colourful paisley pattern suit as opposed to black jeans and t-shirt.

The last question was about making a will, we already know this – it is pitifully small -39%, now in a way that is not so bad, in your 20s and 30s it isn’t top priority but nearly half (45%) of people aged between 50 and 64 still don’t have a will! I hear from so many people – I don’t want to be as burden to my family. Yet they don’t make a will, so if you don’t want burden then don’t! [Sorry, I will calm down now]

There was the quite a few comments as there tends to be on this subject, including the ubiquitous – put me in a cardboard box / I don’t care. To the equally essential element of such things – conspiracy and madness: cremation is popular because of imperial propaganda! [Love it!]

My favourite comment is the following, I can’t imagine why 😉

I thought about this many times as to what should happen to my body when I kick the bucket and fall over. I wouldn’t mind cremation, but if I am getting cremated, I am getting cremated in style with one of those Viking ship burials.

The BBC managed to get a quote from Freddie Sayers, editor-in-chief at YouGov: “It’s always interesting to see real numbers about something that people never really talk about.

“I think these figures lift the lid on one of the great taboo subjects.”

Please don’t call it the great taboo it reinforces historic attitudes to this subject. Still, I am very pleased they did it!

https://yougov.co.uk/news/2016/08/16/majority-people-want-be-cremated-when-they-die/

 

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Celebrity ash scattering ceremony: David Gest

Celebrity ash scattering ceremony at Clifford’s Tower in York

David Gest TV impresario and ex husband of Liza Minnelli passed away in April this year and after a public funeral in Golders Green in London, his nearest and dearest decided that York would be the most appropriate place to scatter his ashes.

David loved the city and had said that was where he wished to die, he had even quipped that he wanted his ashes to be scattered outside a sandwich shop called the York Roast Company where he was a frequent visitor.

Instead the estate choose to scatter the ashes from the iconic Clifford’s Tower within the city. Imad Handi, David’s close friend and co-producer, explained: ‘He said that in his estate if he passed away he just wanted somewhere nice in York. We decided it was a peaceful place.’

The ceremony was small, in celebrity terms, around 20 close friends and family gathered. A pastor led a short service on the turret, which included a reading by David’s sister. The ashes were scattered over the grass below and then white doves and balloons were released.

Clifford’s Tower, which is managed by English Heritage was closed for the day to allow the service to take place. A spokesman for English Heritage, custodians of the tower, added: ‘We were approached by David Gest’s family who asked if they could scatter his ashes from the top of Clifford’s Tower in a small, private memorial.’, ‘As he was an adopted son of York, we thought it an appropriate thing to do for his family.’

Rather bizarrely the Mail interviewed the sandwich shop owner Wayne Chadwick who thought the ashes were coming his way and had assumed the scattering would take place at the shop, and was a little disappointed when they didn’t. He was quite philosophical, he is quoted as saying ‘I am a bit disappointed. But we don’t have any rights over what was to happen to the ashes and if his inner circle wanted to scatter them without any publicity I can understand that.

‘There were practical difficulties in disposing of the ashes in a land-locked shop so from a respect point of view I wanted to leave the final decision to David’s friends and family.’

This little story is quite revealing, what is pleasing for us is that the ashes ceremony was an important part of the farewell. The ceremony was more attuned to the deceased way of life, more celebratory, more unique, less funereal. The use of the clergy, doves and balloons all adding to the occasion. This is, as we say, a proper #4thceremony.

Finally I indulge myself  in the fantasy that Gest’s nearest and dearest found inspiration for the choice of location on the website. However, I do find the decision to close Clifford’s tower done for the day rather odd. I wonder whether English Heritage would do this for the likes of ordinary folk? They have certainly set a precedent, whether they were handsomely compensated in donation terms or just ‘free to those that can afford it, very expensive to those that can’t’. I wonder why they didn’t just have an evening service and close slightly early…?

Original story: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-3612799/David-Gest-s-ashes-scattered-small-ceremony-adopted-home-city-York-20-close-friends-family-members-gather-say-final-goodbyes.html#ixzz4Atoc6dEH

#4thceremony #DavidGest #ashesscattering #York

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Royal Naval Ashes Committal: Portsmouth

This is guidance for the Portsmouth Service.

Arrangements can be made for a ceremony, which includes a short religious service to be carried out at Spithead Portsmouth at a point near to Spitbank Fort. Committals are conducted by a Naval Chaplain. Usually more than one committal is carried out per trip.

Due to high security at a naval base and availability, you should allow a reasonable amount of time to make arrangements.

The base is operational military establishment and therefore there should be understanding that operational demands and site security need to take precedence. And whilst every effort is made to ensure that the committal takes place on the agreed date, sometimes bad weather or a very poor sea-state means we are forced to cancel. They will attempt to notify you in advance should this occur.

On rare occasions we may get out of the harbour only to find that the sea state makes the committal impossible. In which case it is our custom to return and offer a short service at St Ann’s Church and reschedule the committal to a later date.

You may choose to order a Royal Naval Committal Urn

Contact details:

Telephone – 02392 723000  – ask to be put through to the chaplaincy

Email: NAVYNBCP-CHAPLAINCY@mod.uk

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Should I take photos at a scattering ashes ceremony?

The rise and rise of capturing every moment of our lives appears un-reversible, from the moment a new baby comes into the world they are captured in almost every aspect of their life. However there still appears to be certain taboos: funerals are an obvious example. As someone recently expressed to me: why would anyone want to look back at such a sad time? Yet there are funeral photographers who are employed to capture the occasion, as often these events are the only time a family comes together and therefore present a valuable opportunity recording family and friends.

A scattering ceremony (#4thceremony) is similar in many ways but arguably ‘once removed’, a scattering ceremony has the potential to have a more celebratory perceptive on someone’s life, loves, passions and achievements conducted after the initial raw grief has subsided.

So the dilemma (or reluctance) therefore is perhaps less, a family occasion with sadness obviously, but also positive reflection.

Personally I think it is a good idea to take photos (I did so myself and I am pleased I did), but I would suggest not everything needs to be captured if you don’t want it to be. I would consider the two most important subject matters to be the guests and the location. The physical act of scattering may be too personal or intimate and not necessarily desirable. The wonderful thing about pictures as opposed to video is that they create a scene and a mental image complimenting the power of the mind to project a memory in the way we wish.

Which brings me around to a final point, what about video? Again this a personal preference but I am not so keen, particularly of the act of scattering itself, I am not sure I see the point, but then again we are all different. However it does have one advantage and this does not come from the imagines it comes from the words, the recording of voices and emotions are powerful at such a poignant time. So maybe capturing post event reflections at the scene could be desirable.

Finally I would like to undermine my whole stance by saying it is not for anyone to tell you what to do at your ceremony. It is for you to do decide what you wish – photograph don’t photograph video don’t video – it is your choice.

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South Devon Business Excellence Awards

South Devon Business Excellence Awards

We’ve been nominated as finalists for this year’s most innovative business in the South Devon Business Excellence Awards! To say that we’re feeling a bit excited is a bit of an understatement!

As a completely independent family firm based in Dartmoor in Devon we are feeling very humbled to be nominated. Richard set up the website in 2009, after scattering his Dad’s ashes in 1993 he had always been plagued by the fact that nobody offered any advice about how to scatter ashes. Many cremations later, more than three quarters of the British public are cremated every year, there was still no advice and the choice of products were somewhat funereal. So Scattering Ashes was born, we offered advice at first and then people started asking us to supply them with scatter tubes for scattering on land and then water urns for putting ashes into rivers, lakes and the sea.

We have continued to listen to our customers and now we not only supply all sorts of different urns and memorial products but we have developed new products & services for, what is becoming for us, the ‘4th Ceremony’. You have a Christening, a Wedding and then a Funeral, but for those left behind there is a vital stage in that person’s life which is often ignored, what to do with the ashes. Our Guide book is rated 5 stars on Amazon and will gently help you decide and organise a ‘4th ceremony’ that is perfect for your loved one, it was part of the reason for being voted the winner of the 2015 Best Bereavement Resource.

If you read our blog you will see that over the years we have carried out loads of research and for many people this is a really important stage in the bereavement process, the celebration of the life that they lived. So we try and do that for our customers, if you want to out with a bang we’ll arrange to have your ashes put into fireworks, if you’re a keen traveller what about having some of your ashes put into a Message in a Bottle and continue your journey? If the family want together together and have your ashes scattered on the water we have a nation-wide network of approved water ceremony providers and can provide you with petals, messages and doves. Whatever you want to do we’ll do our absolute best to sort it out for you.

Being based in the epicentre of all things craft-related we are incredibly lucky to be able to develop products with extremely talented local Devon businesses, we have memorial glass makers, jewellers, carpenters and artists who create the most beautiful and unique memorial items for our lovely customers. And our customers are lovely, we get so many fantastic testimonials, people write us letters of thanks which is a pretty rare thing these days and we appreciate every single one.

Too many people feel awkward or confused, they might know what they want to do, but feel unsure or wary. We believe that what you do with a loved ones ashes doesn’t have to be mournful or furtive, it doesn’t have to be confusing or clandestine. It can be just what you want it to be – a shout-out, something inspiring, a quiet reflective time – a cherished moment. You loved them – so show it in your own way…

We hope you like what we are trying to do.

Richard and Karen Martin

Directors

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Ashes into Fireworks: Self-fire or an organised display?

Ashes into fireworks

Are you considering going out with a bang?  Putting cremation ashes into fireworks – what are the things you need to think about…

There are two main options for you:

  1. Having your ashes in a firework display or
  2. having the ashes placed in a rocket or a self-firing fireworks box.

There are advantages and disadvantages to both, and here they are:

Ashes in a firework display

  • It will use all the ashes with none left over
  • It is more of a spectacle: more fireworks professionally displayed with musical accompaniment if desired
  • Less hassle in terms of organisation, the firework company will seek appropriate permissions
  • You don’t have to send the ashes anywhere they can add the ashes on site before the display
  • Better value for money (in my opinion)

On the downside

  • Once the date is set it is more difficult to move so may be hampered by the weather
  • May not be as intimate

Fireworks in a self firing rockets or pack

  • You can change date of the event more easily
  • Able to light the touch-paper yourself
  • Cheaper
  • It is more mobile you can take it up a mountain if so desired

On the downside

  • Uses only a small portion of the ashes (about 200 grams)
  • If on public / private land that is not yours, you will need to ask permissions
  • Shorter in duration.

So in conclusion. Cost for many is the primary concern and should this be the case then self-firing fireworks are more affordable, although the company that does our displays, I think,  are extremely good value for money compared to self-fire and other ashes into firework companies.

I would also suggest that if it is going to be an intimate gathering or one for a few of you off the beach then self-fire could be the best option for you. If you are thinking of making it more of a celebration of life gathering then the display would probably be the best option.

However as always it is about choice, and if ashes into fireworks is the right choice for you, I am sure it will be amazing whatever you choose!

Ashes into fireworks

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A family scattering ceremony in Shropshire

Family scattering ceremony in Shropshire

The following piece is copied unedited straight from the Family Section of the Guardian newspaper. I believe it captures a very British scattering ceremony: the emotions, the situation and the actions – I would encourage everyone to read it.

You would never think to take a screwdriver when scattering your grandmother’s ashes. At least, I didn’t. I may have spent many happy afternoons rooting through her toolbox (she is still the only grandmother I’ve ever met who owned her own set of files and wrenches) but it simply didn’t occur to me that we might have to come tooled up for the occasion.

At the beginning of this year, my mother, sister, new boyfriend and two women who, like all the best friends, have become adopted members of our chosen family, trudged up a muddy hill in the middle of rural Shropshire to return my grandmother to the land from which she sprang.

It was neither grand nor particularly remote. It smelled of wet grass and wood smoke. But it was, nonetheless, apt. For my grandmother, born in 1916 and who lived her entire life in a single county, was a woman absolutely of the earth – she had a voice like gravel, a will like granite, grew food in her own soil and was the rock on which an entire family was built. Throughout my turbulent life, she was the only person I could ever place with absolute certainty. I knew, without doubt, where she was sitting, when she was eating and what she was doing at any hour of any day. She was immovable, elemental. When she wore a girdle, kissing her face was like climbing a rock face; when she was saying goodnight, she was as soft as moss.

So I found myself sliding up a pocked and tufted hill overlooking the village of Much Wenlock, in jodhpurs and heeled boots, carrying a wooden box of her ashes. Ironically, for a family whose sporting achievements begin and end with the ability to get out of a chair unaided, this was also the birthplace of PE, thanks to that tyrant of the string vest William Penny Brookes, who held the first Olympian Games there in 1850. God knows what Brookes would have made of our wheezing ascent. There were a few, quiet murmurs of alarm as we shambled our way past a herd of huge, horned cows. The wind whipped around my ears and the rain continued to fall. It wasn’t exactly ancient Greece but it did feel like an odyssey.

Then, as so often in life, things descended from epic to farce. My mother slid her fingers under the lid of the small engraved box in which my grandmother’s ashes had spent Christmas and New Year, and pulled. It didn’t budge. She pulled again. Absolutely nothing.

As a cold drop of rain trickled down the inside of my jumper, we turned the box over to discover that the entire thing was screwed shut. Firmly, undeniably shut. We held our breath. There was silence. I began to laugh. Quiet, embarrassed snorts at first, but these soon gave way to full, honking, goose-like laughter. Here we were, standing in a grieving circle, upon this blasted heath, teeth chattering, cowering under umbrellas, clutching soggy bits of paper scrawled in ink with eulogy and prayer, trying to break into the last earthly remains of my most loved grandmother. There was nothing to do but laugh.

The ribbon on which life is held is bound on one side with laughter and the other side with grief. This is as true in the moment of memorial as it is in celebration. So I feel no guilt for my laughter. My grandmother was an incredibly funny woman. She had more witty comebacks, more withering one-liners and more razor-sharp insights than anyone I’ve ever met. Never cruel, never boring, never imposing – she could simply tell it like it was and in the process charm an entire room. So I think – hope – she would have laughed too. After all, this was the woman who could drink jockeys under the table. This was the woman who flirted with the handyman who came to fix her bed after the combined weight of overnight guests had bent its frame. This was the woman who laughed to the point of tears when her son tickled her. This was the woman who told us all on her birthday last July that she would wait to see Christmas and then let go.

In the absence of a multitool, I had a go at some of the screws with my smallest house key. They didn’t budge. My poor boyfriend searched his pockets desperately for a pen knife. Nothing. Finally, my mother marched right back down the hill and knocked on the door of the nearest farm. In her best demanding voice, she asked if she could borrow a screwdriver, “So I can scatter my mother under that tree.”

The man on the threshold barely flinched before padding into his kitchen to look for a suitable tool.

At last, as we huddled in the rose bushes giggling, a screwdriver was located. Once again, we began our sole-sucking, watery ascent to that tree, overlooking that hill and the old vicarage in which my mother was raised. Perhaps it is easier to be practical in the face of death in the countryside. After all, not more than 20 feet away, in an old red brick outbuilding, my mother used to peer in at the small furry bodies of pets and livestock that could not be saved by my grandfather’s gentle, veterinary hands. Death and life turn like a wheel across rural England, through days, through seasons and through years. You cannot have one without the other. Just as you cannot have laughter without also knowing sadness.

Once we’d got to the top of the hill, my mother held the small bag of ashes – the dust and grit to which we all must, eventually, return – against her chest. My sister said the prayer taught to us all by my grandmother. We looked at an old photograph, I said a few words. The rain fell, the cows tore leaves from brittle branches, a windmill turned in the distance. And then it was time to let her go. To scatter to the earth and air the last tangible pieces of a woman who will live on not just in anecdote but in our genes; the curls in my hair, the blood in my mother’s thumbs, the beating of my sister’s heart.

As I watched a cloud of whiteness skirt dangerously close to my boyfriend’s coat, watched specks of grey settle on the hoof print of a cow, saw ash mingle with earth and rain, I continued to smile. Later, as we trudged back down the hill for a pub lunch, returning that vital screwdriver and steaming our coats before an open fire, we carried on laughing. Because that is what families do.

Families are collections of people woven together by shared stories – some dramatic, some tragic and some hilarious. We live and die in the tales we tell. We are knitted into being not just with blood, but also with words. And so this story about my grandmother’s ashes is one I hope to tell my own grandchildren one day.

The central mishap of urn, brings out the humour that is so often present yet sometimes denied or tinged with guilt. What is more it can’t be the first time this has happened to a family and now although most people opt for scattering the information that was needed on the practical side clearly had not been passed on.

It is interesting I see that the family had considered the aspects of their ceremony before embarking on their ‘odyssey’: the photo the prayer the words. And notable too was that they had not held on for better weather nor that the group was entirely made up of the family quorum, but included non-family members too.

This is not an untypical ceremony even down to the perilously near miss with the ashes on the wind. One final point on the choice of location: the vantage point, where the location allowed the group to take-in more visual aspects of their loved one’s world.

A beautiful piece Nell Frizell, considered, eloquent and thoughtful.

Here is a link to the original article: http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/jan/23/we-saw-gran-off-on-a-hilltop-with-a-touch-of-farce-and-a-screwdriver

 

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How to scatter ashes: 5 different ways

Here is how to scatter ashes? Here are 5 ways to make your ceremony even more memorable

  1. Casting: is the act of throwing the cremation ashes to the wind or usually just called scattering. There are a number of thing you should consider.
  • they are more ashes than you realise they can cover quite an area, they are made up of large grain size to dust and therefore some will be carried easily on the wind.
    • we would suggest you invest in a scattering tube or urn they are far more dignified than the plastic container you receive from the crematorium. There is no absolute need, here is our selection of scattering urns, if that is something you think who help
  • keep the urn below waist height to minimise where the ashes can blow to
  • make sure party members are up wind, often not considered and it can cause distress in the ashes blow on to people
  • don’t just turn the container upside down unless you have a rake, it can be quite undignified should you then need level the ashes.

Do you physical touch the ashes? – This is up to you, many people find this too distressing or macabre, other think it is a final connection, it is always wise to discuss such matters up front to minimise nerves or apprehension.

  1. Ringing Ashes: Scatter the ashes in a ring shape on the ground or around an object e.g. a tree or in a clearing. Hold the scattering urn close to the ground. One nice idea is for participants to enter the ring to speak about the deceased.
  2. Trenching or Beaching: Using a paddle hoe or something similar carve a niche or small trench in the beach, either a line shape or pattern, then empty you scatter tube into the trench. Choose a spot below the high-tide line, cover if you wish and wait until the tide disperse the sashes.

Warning don’t do it above the high tide line and try to stay away from the beach entry / exit point. You could get disturbed. Here is the tide timetable if it helps.

  1. Toasting: everybody attending the ceremony holds a toasting cup and in the same way after a speech you might toast someone, you scatter them. After someone has spoken about your loved one, holding onto the cup everyone scatters /throws /flings some the contents of the cup in the required direction. The cups are refilled as required until the end of the speeches or the ashes have run out. Very celebratory and lovely for participation.
  2. Raking: this is the practise used in gardens of remembrance at a crematoria, by using a rake you can disperse the ashes equally – this will allow for faster integration with the soil and better consistency. This may be the method if scattering in your own garden.

This is our range of scattering urns, make the ceremony even more memorable with our range of ceremony products

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Naval Order of Service

It may be you want to scatter the ashes of a loved one at sea and that person had a naval career. And whilst you would like reference to their service in the the Royal or Merchant Navy it may not be appropriate to use the Navy’s chaplaincy service. There maybe many reasons for this: you want the loved one closer to home, you wish to scatter husband and wife together and only one was naval personal, you want to conduct the service yourself.

The Chaplaincy have kindly shared their order of service with us, it has two versions one is for a service at their local church if the sea is too rough to perform the committal.

Here is the link: Royal Navy Order of Service

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A Sign of the times?

The Ministry for Natural Resource in Ontario, Canada has taken a progressive step about the scattering of ashes in its jurisdiction. It has been legal to scatter ashes on provincial crown land since 2009, but the public have been requesting greater clarity and the ministry in response to these requests has erected a sign for guidance purposes, to my mind the very first signage of it type in the world!
The sign situated in Bronte Creek Provincial Park, Oakville at 3201 Upper Middle Road West to be precise, sets out the do’s and don’ts in performing a scattering ceremony in the park. Helping people carry out their ceremony without fear of a ‘tap on the shoulder’ and that they are doing in the most responsible and environmental friendly way possible.
“It is important for many families of various cultures to scatter the ashes of a loved one as part of the ceremonial practices of their faith,” said Mississauga East-Cooksville MPP Dipika Damerla. “The Ministry of Natural Resources recognizes that the practice of scattering cremated remains is an important part of the religious beliefs of many families.”

The Ministry of Natural Resources considers that provincial parks are dedicated to the people of Ontario and visitors for their inspiration, spiritual, education, health and recreational enjoyment with the intention that these areas be managed to protect provincially significant natural and cultural features and preserve them for future generations. So I suppose it seems logical that they should help achieve these aims.
The sign in the parks reads:

The sign, which was installed in Oakville's Bronte Creek Provincial Park, makes things clear, guides and explains certain rules how to scatter cremated ashes in the park or river.

Family and individuals who wish to scatter cremated remains of a loved one can do so in Bronte Creek Provincial Park on both land and in water.”
To minimize environmental impact, it also guides:
• Do not leave plastic flowers, notes or physical structures at the site;
• Do not leave offerings such as coins, clothing or jewelry in waterways or at the site;
• Stay on designated trails and roadways; and
• Do not cut or remove natural vegetation such as plants and trees.
I think this is a progressive step and whilst I am not sure of the amount in percentage terms of people scattering ashes in Ontario will come across this sign, which one would imagine is fairly minimal I would imagine, it is still welcome. Ummmmm I suppose there is one slight reservation and I think this is perhaps rather churlish of me. Does the sign potentially have a greater impact on the beauty of the locality than the occasional misguided family ceremony…? Am I missing the bigger picture here I wonder?

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East Devon: Beer

Location Beer, East Devon.
Area of operation Within a three mile radius of Beer (Branscombe, Seaton, Beer) Views across Lyme Bay..
Type of boat: 25’ working fishing boat
Duration of trip: As long as client requires, further charges if longer than 1 hour
Capacity of boat: 11 people
Refreshments: Not provided you can bring your own drinks and snacks if you wish
Additional: SAMBE has the required safety equipment and insurance
Ceremony Scattering ashes directly onto the water can lead to them being blown about which some families may find distressing. We supply a wide range of urns specifically designed for water ceremonies. They are all 100% biodegradable and will dissolve in water – please follow the link: Water UrnsWe also supply a water ceremony set which includes a water urn, flower petals for scattering, Promises – dissolvable notelets for scattering with the ashes, a certificate to record the ceremony, and our award winning (and rated 5* on Amazon) guide book: follow the link – 4th Ceremony Set
Cost: £60 for trip. £60 per hour if longer wished for
Company comments: Sailings will be subject to weather conditions on the day.  Sensitivity and Co-ordinates given of where scattering takes place respect shown for your loved one’s ashes
Disabled Access: Not available
Parking: If telephoned reserved parking can be made on Beer Beach
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Committal of Ashes to the Sea by the Royal Navy

The Naval Chaplaincy Service carries out Committals at Sea Ceremonies for all former Service personnel.

The Royal Naval Chaplaincy Service undertakes committals of ashes at sea from our Base Ports in Scotland on the Clyde (Faslane), Plymouth (Devonport) and Portsmouth.

There is no charge for the committal.

Eligibility is determined on a case by case basis, the decreased should be: 

  • Royal Navy Personnel.
  • There’s no length of service required, but they do need a short Service History and Service Number for checking with the records. 
  • Different bases have different eligibility.

Portsmouth handles initial enquiries for other two bases, contact details:

Telephone – 02392 723000  – ask to be put through to the chaplaincy

Email: NAVYNBCP-CHAPLAINCY@mod.uk

Ash containers / urn?

We make urns to the Royal Nays specification: Royal Navy Committal Urn, we are lead to believe however the Chaplaincy if cost is an impediment they would accept these water urns. You are not required to purchase these through Scattering Ashes, your Funeral Director may be able to assist, although we are we are happy to supply them should you wish.

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Bremen is the first state in Germany to allow the scattering of ashes

 

Bremen, the smallest state in Germany, has voted to allow the scattering of ashes. To be honest I knew the name, but I was not aware where it was – and it is small, really small in fact it is two cities that are separated by the larger state of Lower Saxony.

You might not seem a big deal, well it is. Germany has strict laws on ashes and until now they were only allowed to be placed in an official cemetery and they were must be buried within six weeks under state law.  However Germany is changing and death rites are no exception 2012 saw cremations overtake burials.

This move is seen as a big step and the change has caused a row with opposition Christian Democrats and church figures getting rather hot under the collar. However the State Parliament went ahead and voted to allow a persons ashes to be scattered on private properties.

It is due to come into force next year and there are a number of provisos:

  • the existence of a written statement by the deceased person that his or her ashes should be scattered at a particular location.
  • someone (presumably a funeral director or chaplain?) must also be appointed to supervise the scattering and make sure that it takes place in accordance with the wishes of the deceased.
  • the deceased must have lived in Bremen as his or her last place of residence.
  • care must be taken, that none of the ashes blow onto neighbouring properties
  • with a special permit, the ashes may also be scattered in rivers or parks.

The parties that pushed for the change – Social Democrat, Green and Left party believed the strict rules were no longer in accordance with the view of a large segment of society (A survey in 2007 showed that more than 45 percent of Germans wanted their ashes scattered or stored in an urn outside a cemetery)

However Christian Democrats and religious groups believed that such a move would lead to a “privatization” of death and grief and not uphold the dignity of the deceased person.

 

 

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Queens Park Rangers a prince among clubs

 

The details of ashes scatterings and memorial services at Loftus Road are:

We would be delighted to carry out your wish for the ashes of your loved one to be scattered at QPR.  The procedure starts when you contact the club chaplain, Rev’d Cameron Collington (details below).  He will arrange a time with the club for you, and up to 20 others, to come to Loftus Road for a special ceremony of remembrance.  It may happen any weekday between 9.30am – 4.30pm, subject to the availability of the stadium.

When the day arrives, you bring about a coffee-jar’s worth of the ashes to Reception on South Africa Road where you will be welcomed by the chaplain.  You will be taken to the players’ dressing room where you can look around and take photographs.  You will be led down the tunnel and taken pitchside (walking on the pitch itself is not permitted).

The chaplain will lead you round to the goalposts at the Loftus Road end, where he will get you to lay the ashes on a small tray in the vicinity of the goal line, which he will have prepared.  Over the next few minutes, he will encourage you and any others to recall together one or two stories and memories, perhaps linked to of your loved one’s keenness for QPR.  This is followed by a couple of short prayers, ending with a moment’s quiet.

You then return to the tunnel, stopping for photographs in the dugout, then through to Reception where the chaplain will say goodbye.  Once you have left, the chaplain will gather the open tray of ashes and look after them until the pitch is dug up and re-seeded at the end of the season – in late May.  They are scattered carefully and respectfully, together with other ashes which have been looked after during the season.

Again, please note that we can only accept about a coffee-jar’s worth of the ashes.

There is no charge made by the club or chaplain for this service, and it’s also worth knowing that regrettably the club has no parking to offer.

The chaplain’s details are:

Cameron Collington.

Vicar, St Simon’s Church

www.stsimons.co.uk

cameron@stsimons.co.uk

Well done QPR, there are precious few London clubs that have  such a thoughtful and considered approach, so this is great to see.

Please note this was accurate at the time on publication (November 2014) but things do change so it is worth double checking first before you confirm your plans.

Look – here is something on French Telly! My Dad’s ashes at QPR

 

 

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Leicester City FC -scattering ashes at King Power Stadium

cremation ashes Leicester city

Leicester City (aka the Foxes) the powerhouse of East Midlands football secondly only to the might Cobblers in this part of the world a have a garden of remembrance for their fans. I am pleased to say that they offer a couple of options, a plaque and / or scattering.

You can choose to have plaque which has a personal inscription made from blue acrylic this is then affixed to their memorial stone.

Scatterings of ashes in the clubs garden of remembrance needs to be booked in advance, at least 48 hours before the desired date. Although they can be carried out in any time, including weekends as long as it does not clash with a match day. They can be administered by either a Funeral Director or our Club Chaplain if he is available.  All scatterings need to take place in the centre circle of pebbles in either of the gardens.

To contact the club follow this link and ask to be through to the Chaplain or Grounds Maintenance

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A send-off with a bang! Memorialised though a cannon blast

FOX Carolina 21

 

Now this is on the unusual side, a long time firearms enthusiast has had his ashes blasted out of a replica US civil war cannon. Now that is a proper send-off!

Julian ‘Boyd’ Mercer lost his fight with cancer in September at a the age of 49. He had been a longtime fan of competitive shooting and member of both the United States Practical Shooting Organization and the Spartanburg Practical Shooting Organization.

He had mentioned to his son Garris that he thought having his cremation ashes fired out of a cannon would be a fitting exit, Garris then went to arrange the ceremony.

So on a cool September morning family and friends gathered for the occassion. It began when a cannoner wearing a black arm band approached the cannon, which stood next to a Confederate flag. Then in accordance with Civil War tradition, the cannoner took down the flag and placed his arm band around it, to signify that it would not fly again for the rest of the day.

The gunner then readied the cannon for firing and lit the fuse. The roar that followed rocked the heavy iron gun, leaving smoke a ringing in the ears.

A sombre moment that was met with a mixture of cheers, tears and applause.

I like this – a unique and distinctive send-off. I was only left with one question, what is practical shooting? Is there impractical or reckless shooting clubs, actually scratch that, I don’t want to know – it scares me!!

Original Story: http://www.foxcarolina.com/story/26583584/spartanburg-mans-ashes-fired-from-cannon-at-memorial-service

 

 

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Scattering Ceremony – Dove Release: East Midlands

Add a poignant and symbolic act to your scattering ashes ceremony, if you are intending to have your ceremony in the East Midlands you now have the option of a dove release.

The company operates in the East Midlands area: Derby, Nottingham, Leicester, Burton on Trent. They  are happy to cover a 50 mile radius of Derby. All White Doves come from their lofts based in the Midlands.

The cost of our single bird release is from £85.00 (Representing the flight of everlasting peace) and the cost of the Trinity Release (Single bird release followed by three white doves representing the father, the son and the holy spirit) is £165.00 and we also offer a Angle release single bird release followed by a flock of white doves £195.00.

They have a range of poems and words which can be used, either the family could read prior to the release or we could read out. Additionally you can choose a basket release or they can pass you the birds for a hand release.

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Scattering Ceremony – Dove Release: Greater London

 

One option for a memorable ceremony is to release a dove or a number of doves after you have scattered the ashes. Whether one dove, a pair of doves or a small flock, they make a poignant and symbolic gesture. We can arrange this for you.
Expert handlers, with experience and sensitivity for such occasions will bring the doves to your ceremony. At the time of release, the handler can assist you in holding the dove before release, or you can simply open the carrier or basket and let the dove fly out, or the handler can do it all for you. You choose what feels right for you at the time.
The doves can carry a personal message. Simply write it on a piece of soft paper (5mm by 10mm) and the handler will attach it to the dove’s leg before release.
To mark the release, you will receive a Memorial Card – personalised with the name of your loved one plus an organza bag containing naturally moulted white feathers (when available) as a keepsake.
The company is based in London covering Greater London and the south east, north to Milton Keynes, west to Reading, east to Southend and south to Crawley.
Prices are subject to the distance travelled by road to the release site. If the release is on a boat, extra time required by our handler will be factored in.
Prices start from £85 for a single dove and £105 for a pair of doves. Very often when a dove-release is booked, those attending may wish they could release a dove too. So for each additional dove booked, the cost is just £10.
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Professional Photographer needs your help on scattering stories – ‘HERE I AM’

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Can you help me?

I am looking for stories of why and where ashes have been scattered.

‘Here I am’ is a photographic project I started a couple of years ago based around the themes of memory and loss.
I had been working with the NHS on an End of Life project, which entailed talking to people who were near the end of their life and asking them the best way to make things as easy as possible for them. This included what they would like to happen to their bodies after they had passed away.
This got me thinking about where I might like my ashes scattered, but also how and why and where people scatter the ashes of loved ones.

So far, I have received many stories telling me the reason why people had scattered the ashes of their loved ones in a specific place. These have been heart-warming, emotional, funny and poignant.

I have been a professional photographer for over twenty years and am taking photographs of the locations, (not the actual scattering) which are accompanied by the stories sent in……..but I need more. (Only first names would be used in the text.)

Have you scattered the ashes of a loved one in a particular place for a particular reason?

Do you know of someone whose ashes were scattered in a particular place for a particular reason?

Please do get in touch to tell me your story or to find out more and please do spread the word.

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Toasting – a good addition to your ceremony

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We are always on the lookout for different ways to scatter a loved ones ashes, this is one we had not considered before and we like it!

In the same way after a speech – you might toast someone, well with this alternative you share out a number of ‘cups’ for each of the participants, then fill these cups with some ashes. After someone has spoken about that person, holding onto the cup everyone scatters /throws /flings some the contents of the cup in the required direction.

The cups are refilled as required until the end of the speeches or the ashes have run out.

I really like this, it has a splendidly joyous / celebratory twist.

We have thought about the right receptacle and we think that a biodegradable coir cup would be ideal for the following reasons

  • They look nice
  • They have a real practical use afterward, some of the finer ash particle will stay in the cup and you can grow a plant in them afterwards that will have a really lovely connection
  • They are sustainable and biodegradable
  • These ones we have no hole in the bottom

You can use any cup really, but most you would throw away straight afterwards.

Here is our product page Toasting cup, we have been able to keep the cost low when purchased with a standard tube as we don’t need to additional post and packing.

Thanks to Mrs MacAllen, Argyle for emailing this suggestion – very kind.

You don’t need words to say goodbye

We often think we need words to fill our world, here two brothers (presumably) are scattering the ashes of their father in a tranquil and beautiful setting. Nothing is said apart from one enquiring whether the bag containing the ashes is to be washed out with the sea water.

I like it. I always think there should be words noise and such, but this meant a lot to them, they had clearly gone to some trouble so each to their own I say.

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Scattering Roxanne in Arizona

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Below is a five minute video that had been posted on YouTube entitled Spreading Ashes – Spreading Roxanne’s ashes at Bell Rock in Sedona, Arizona.

Why it was upload and for whom I am not sure, but clearly by the emotion shown it was still quite raw for those involved. It is not an easy viewing, but do not let that put you off watching it or thinking that is how you would feel.

It was kind of those involved to share their experiences and emotions which are not untypical of many families. Whilst in no way taking away from their ceremony, there are a number of  points I would like to draw out for you, if are aiming to scatter a loved ones ashes.

They use difficult receptacle to scatter ashes from, it may be wise putting it into something else first, eg a scattering urn or similar.

The ceremony was really quiet apart from a few words from the main character (it is the ashes of his sister), the central man asks once he holds it ‘ What shall I do? scatter some and pass it on?’ .  However only two of the small party  of the attendants took it in turns to thinly scatter over the spot, being careful to keep it in one area. Then carefully stepping, avoiding where they had scattered. Without anyone guiding or help them why would they would know that more could be made of the ceremony eg reading or poetry or memory.

I thought this was exemplified when one of the men concluding the scattering says ‘I never knew there would be so much’ which is such a common experience.

One man leaves something in the tree as a marker but this is difficult to work out what or why.

Seeing this ceremony natural uncut does help us all to think how you could carry out your own ceremony. And I would like thank those who posted it for sharing their experience.

 

 

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A Spring Scattering Ceremony

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Well we tried waiting until Spring had sprung before writing this but Mother Nature seems to have other ideas!

The daffodils and crocuses are still trying to survive despite the snow and rain and Easter is a time when many families get together and think about their loved ones and often decide to scatter their ashes so we’ve put together a couple of ideas for a Spring scattering ceremony.

The most important thing to bear in mind is that it is your ceremony so it is entirely up to you whatever you decide to do. Do think about having someone who can say a few words, they don’t have to trained as a religious figure, unless you want them to, or as a public speaker, although you may wish to use a Celebrant (http://www.independentcelebrants.com),  just someone who can guide those gathered through the ceremony.

You may wish to have a formal or informal order of service, even if you don’t give attendees a printed version it is useful for at least one person to have a rough idea of what is going to happen and to lead the others gathered. You could start with some music (do make sure to bring enough batteries or source a power supply if using a sound system), so that people have a chance to settle down. It is a good idea to follow with a brief welcome and let people know what is going to happen.  A poem or reading can be helpful at this juncture, here is a lovely one we found on the www.dennydavis.net website

Spring Thaw

(Lee Avery Reed)

Not that winter seemed so long, —
We were content together, —
Our home was warm with love, it could
Withstand the fiercest weather.

Yet sometimes we would speak of spring,
Anticipate the greening
On all the views we loved so well,
Now touched with greater meaning.

Today I walk in early spring
As memories come welling . . .
And oh, to see a crocus bloom
And you not here for telling!

You might like to then talk about the deceased or get others to say a few words, if you are going to ask people to say something it is good to give them plenty of warning beforehand so that they have time to prepare a goodbye in advance. You may decide to have a formal eulogy by a faith leader or celebrant or you might just want to talk about how you met the deceased or a favourite story or memory.

When it is time to scatter the ashes you may want to think about doing something symbolic such as scattering flower petals, wildflower seeds, releasing doves or Chinese lanterns. You could simply shake hands or light a candle, with a little preparation your ceremony can be a really special and meaningful event.

We’re offering a 10% discount on all our Flower Scatter Tubes if you enter the code SPRING when purchasing online until the end of May 2013

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Institute of Civil Funerals

Looking for some help in giving a loved one a send off, want to make it more of an event? Can’t think of the right words? Or never been comfortable speaking in public? Then we suggest that you use the services of a celebrant, and we are happy to recommend:

Institute of Civil Funerals

Institute of Civil Funerals
186a Station Road
Burton Latimer
Kettering
Northants
NN15 5NT

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Tel:   01480 861411

For all enquiriesinfo@iocf.org.uk

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Celebrant: Marc Oxley, East Midlands

Name: Marc Oxley

Base: Rutland

Area covered: East Midlands

The celebrant: A fully trained Civil Funeral Celebrant, a Founding Fellow of the Society of Bereavement Practitioners. A Funeral Celebrant trained with the Institute of Civil Funerals in March 2006 and since he has officiated at Funerals in crematoria, scattering ceremonies and green burial sites. He has also conducted at a Hindu Civil Funeral. Sizes of congregations have ranged from 3 to 300. All the ceremonies have been well received. He has worked in the Funeral Industry since 2004, so has a wide experience of what a Funeral entails.

From the celebrant:  Each ceremony is written to try and capture the essence of the person who has died using words, music and personal memories. Putting into words, in a dignified way, what needs to be said at a very difficult time for those left behind.

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Moray Firth: Inverness

 

Location  Bay/Moray Firth
Area of operation Anywhere (except small pioneer which is restricted to the bay only
Type of boat Pioneer multi 8.5m Rigid Inflatable Boat (RIB) ‘Buchaneer’ 3. 7.85m Rigid Inflatable Boat (RIB) ‘Privateer’ 31ft Sailing Catamaran ‘Meercat’
Duration of trip As required
Capacity of boat Pioneer Multi- 7 People Buchaneer- 12 People Privateer- 10 People Meercat- 12 People
Refreshments As required on vessels and at request on land at Marina Cafe
Ceremony  Scattering ashes directly onto the water can lead to them being blown about which some families may find distressing. We supply a wide range of urns specifically designed for water ceremonies. They are all 100% biodegradable and will dissolve in water – please follow the link: Water Urns

We also supply a water ceremony set which includes a water urn, flower petals for scattering, Promises – dissolvable notelets for scattering with the ashes, a certificate to record the ceremony, and our award winning (and rated 5* on Amazon) guide book: follow the link – 4th Ceremony Set

Cost From £35
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Scattering Ashes – Ashes into Fireworks: UK wide

Ashes into Fireworks

Ashes into fireworks: Professional firework displays incorporating ashes are a fantastic way to celebrate the life of a loved one.

They are truly fantastic events, scattering the ashes over the heavens. It is a scattering ceremony that will stay forever in the memory. We have a range of options for you.

Advantages of a  professional ashes into fireworks display:

  • It will use all the ashes with none left over
  • It is more of a spectacle: more fireworks professionally displayed with musical accompaniment if desired
  • Less hassle in terms of organisation, the firework company will seek appropriate permissions
  • You don’t have to send the ashes anywhere they can add the ashes on site before the display

Please bear in mind that once a date has been set it is more difficult to change so may be hampered by weather.

I just wanted to thank you and your team for putting on such an amazing firework display. It really was a spectacular event and so much more beautiful than I or my guests could ever imagine. It really was a very fitting tribute to my Aunt and I can not thank you enough for all your hard work and support. Everybody at the memorial last night was full of praise and moved to tears. Clare
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Poppy

Cost; £850- inc VAT

A Poppy display creates a calm and yet wonderful farewell to a loved one.

Full of highly colourful, pretty and low noise fireworks. A gentle pace throughout, culminating in a brilliant finish of gold and silver.

Duration: 5 minutes
Choice of colours: Yes
Choice of effects: Yes
Music: No
Sound PA Included: N/A

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Peony

£1,185- inc VAT

A Peony display is a dramatic and proud tribute in fireworks to the loved one departed.

With a wide selection of colourful and at times noisy fireworks, this display celebrates the joy of life in no uncertain terms.

Duration: 7 minutes
Choice of colours: Yes
Choice of effects: Yes
Music: No
Sound PA Included: N/A

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Rose

£1,590- inc VAT

A Rose display is the first of our music and fireworks celebrations of life.

Select a favourite piece of music for the person being remembered and we will design a display to go perfectly with the music.

Duration: 5 minutes
Choice of colours: Yes
Choice of effects: Yes
Music: Yes, your own choice
Sound PA Included: Yes

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Orchid

£2,130- inc VAT

An Orchid display captures the real essence of a loved one in music and fireworks.

Select 2 or maybe 3 pieces of music that epitomize the individuals life, and we’ll choreograph a perfect fireworks display in their memory.

Duration: 8 minutes
Choice of colours: Yes
Choice of effects: Yes
Music: Yes your own choice
Sound PA Included: Yes

If you would like to organise a ashes into fireworks  – celebration of life display we will need about 7 days notice so we can carry out the risk assessment and design the display and some periods are busier than others. The pyrotechnic organiser will need the ashes 2 days before your event so they can prepare the fireworks. Of course the ashes are treated with the greatest of care and respect.

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Gran’s ashes run aground

 

The Bournemouth Echo carried a bitter sweet tale of a family who were carrying their Gran’s ashes on a boat to be scattered at sea near the Old Harry Rocks in Dorset. Unfortunately the boat got into trouble and got stuck on the rocks. Apparently they had to be rescued by the RNLI, which the whole family thought was rather amusing and quite an adventure. What strikes me was the humour that family seemed to find in the whole thing – is this just British thing and is it exacerbated by the ashes ceremony, humour so often coming out of emotion?

The one other thing I found interesting about this was it would appear they had not chartered the boat themselves ” The family accounted for almost half the 38 passengers on board the boat when it ran aground at around noon.” . Interesting that the family thought didn’t mind sharing the boat with strangers? And I wonder what the other passengers felt?

http://www.bournemouthecho.co.uk/news/8323594.Boat_gets_stuck_on_nan_s_last_journey/

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How long after the funeral should you wait before a scattering ceremony

 

Is there an ideal time to scatter ashes ? How long should you leave it after the funeral? As we think scattering ceremonies can really help the grieving process, if done well. Does it help with ‘closure’?

So we asked and expert Anne Wadey – Head of Bereavement Advice Centre. This is what she said:

“As far as your original question about the timing of scattering ashes – I don’t think there is a ‘right’ time other than what is right for each individual family/relative. I think the ‘right answer’ is what seems right to them – which in some cases may mean negotiating some family compromises. Avoid becoming embroiled in those whatever you do.

Some people keep them forever or until a surviving partner dies, others authorise them to be scattered/interred at the crematorium with no additional ceremony and all the options in between which you so helpfully outline.

I personally have a dislike of the term closure – it suggests there is an end point to missing someone. I think this is unhelpful, there will be various milestones at which most people find themselves looking forward more than back, in some cases coping with the idea and actuality of a new relationship but others, especially the very elderly will ‘turn their face to the wall’ as they perceive there is no future.”

 

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National Trust (England) Policy on Scattering Ashes

The National Trust works to preserve and protect the coastline, countryside and buildings of England through practical caring and conservation, through educating and informing, and through encouraging millions of people to enjoy their national heritage. – in their own words

The Trust owns a large number of properties, including historic houses and gardens, industrial monuments and social history sites. In fact it is one of the largest landowners, membership organisations and charities in the UK.

Good news, when we asked them what their policy was on scattering ashes on their property – we have had a response back from them:

“The National Trust does not have a formal policy on this but is happy to consider requests on the basis that there are no environmental problems (i.e. possible contamination of water courses or sources, no accompanying permanent or indeed ephemeral markers), that it is not against any wishes that may have been expressed by a donor, and that the act of scattering the ashes is done discreetly and in private with no interference with others enjoyment of a property. We would also not expect that visitors to the property could see any visual presence of ashes. If these conditions can be met and subject to local arrangements being made with the General Manager or Property Manager at the appropriate property, consent can be granted.
The Trust has a general policy not to allow green burials on our land, although we do receive a number of requests to permit this every year.”
All position statements are actuate at the time of posting, please contact the organisation directly for the most up to date position.

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