We are told our society is becoming less religious, it appears there is often a grating between cultures when it comes to remembering a secular person in a religious establishment. The vicar or priest may be called upon to speak about a loved one – someone they may not have known. And it may be not what the deceased would wish for – just that those left behind may be at a loss of what to do next or they may find comfort in the tradition. This could make things seem rather false, non-churchgoers mumbling over words of hymns they remember from childhood, or clergy wincing over contemporary music.
Likewise the crematorium can be ghastly sixties constructions, there for one sole purpose, often not the best place to celebrate life. Whereas although a church celebrates all stages of life. So neither may seem the ideal place to reflect upon the life of someone who meant so much to you. This is taking not taking anything away from the above, but those that have a more personal view of faith, religion, spirituality or belief may be more comfortable considering their own particular path.
So people many choose to celebrate a life when we scatter someone’s ashes, yet while is no tradition for us to lean on, this occasion is a fantastic opportunity. We hope we can help you in finding the right path for you.