The musical icon Tina Turner has recently (28 July 2018) scattered the ashes her son at sea off the coast of California (USA). Very sad, her son apparently took his own life earlier in the month.
How did she let people know? Instagram, (see picture below) adding the following comment:
“My saddest moment as a mother. On Thursday, July 19, 2018, I said my final goodbye to my son, Craig Raymond Turner, when I gathered with family and friends to scatter his ashes off the coast of California. He was fifty-nine when he died so tragically, but he will always be my baby,”
The picture does not show the act itself and looks quite natural, yet I still struggle a little with bereavement and social media. Please don’t get me wrong I am not opposed to the idea, I don’t think Mrs Turner did the wrong thing, just I personally don’t understand its role.
We all act within are own framework of references, I don’t suppose I am hugely different from many occupying my Venn diagram of life. I spoke to my children about this they said ‘good for her’ and ‘poor woman’ … my wife said ‘Really, why? I suppose it is a good thing’. And I suppose she is simply communicating with the people adore her, and there are many. Her post had received at the time of writing over 60k ‘likes’ and a huge number of comments, so in my attempts to understand this I started to wade through the comments to pick up tends, themes, etc.
This where my head started hurting. Here is an typical excerpt from the comments
- malamalama2000NMRK Tina 🙏☀❤☀🙏
He’s in Peace Now Tina, May his energy find a new vessel and a better life as his energy travels
- blakdarPrayers for you and your family
- hurricanetoyasorry for your loss
- justcallme_cheftYou have my deepest condolences @tinaturner
So a mixture of prayers, buddhist chants and emojis, there was also some betting adverts and some minor trolling.
But what does it all mean? Does Mrs Turner scroll through this ‘book of remembrance’ nodding and thanking and telling the odd idiot to get get stuffed? Does she even look at them? Does someone look at them for her and give her the edited highlights, can you imagine her PA saying ‘Hey Tina, you won’t believe what Woldo365 from Massachusetts said’ And why? Is it a collective numbers thing – 60k are thinking about me and my loss at this moment and that gives me strength (this is best ‘conclusion’ I have reached so far)? I guess it might be a generation thing, but I’m not a fuddy-duddy and there are many people older than I that would do this (and I suspect many younger that wouldn’t).
Although all said and done, I do hope it brought some comfort …