We have been writing on the subject of ashes for over ten years. We have thousands of people who come to the site every day looking for advice and guidance on how to this very final act of farewell.
We talk about tide times, landowners’ permission…. you name it we have discuss it.
However, among all the issues discussed there is perhaps one error that people continue to make. And that is they don’t take account for the wind.
It might sound like stating the obvious, but if you scatter ashes into the wind, they will blow back towards you.
The following video is a classic example of this. It was well reported widely in the press, two sisters went to scatter the ashes of their father at Capstone Hill – which is a cliff promontory in Ilfracombe in North Devon.
‘Cliff, Headland, Autumn’ – I hear you say… ‘would this really be ideal conditions for such an act?’ Error no, possibly the worst apart from a hurricane on a Caribbean Island. Still if that is the date and that is the place chosen just think about the predominant direction of the wind and scatter with the wind as opposed to against it.
Well, the dutiful daughters (Belle and Tyla) did attempt to defy this certain aspect of metrology when they undertook this meaningful act. And this is what happened….
Belle said: ‘The video sums him up.’
‘He was brilliant, had a sense of humour, and he was so funny.’
‘He was a proper daddy bear. It was an emotional day.’
‘When the accident with the ashes happened, it helped lighten the mood and we both walked away laughing.’
‘My sister Tyla is worried someone’s going to see her as the girl that inhaled her dad. I think it’s pretty funny.’
Isn’t that lovely – proper love for their father. I have heard that expression ‘It sums him up’ used in this context many times before, they attribute it to the personality of the deceased. Often this is accompanied with – he is looking down and laughing or that in ‘he’ somehow caused the act itself….
Finally, I always like to have a look at the comment left on these articles. This was the MailOnline so the demographic is not random. However broadly half said – ‘how funny!’ with the other half failing to see any humour at all (an example of the polarization of society?)
This was perhaps the most interesting from someone in Marlborough …I’m just reading some of the comments here and boy are there some pious, humourless people out there. No wonder everyone is offended these days. Scattering Ashes isn’t the funeral. Yes, it can be solemn but also, it’s a way of letting go. Most people who have died would want the people they have left behind to be happy and to laugh.
Anyway, leave that one for another day…