How to plan a scattering ashes ceremony

How to plan a spreading of ashes ceremony – 5 thoughts for 2020

First thing – DON’T RUSH. Here are five points when considering how to plan a scattering of ashes ceremony

  1. Firstly, decide where you want the ceremony. The choice of locations is huge and impossible to list, but here are a few things you should consider:
    • Do you want to be able to visit frequently?
    • Do you want a place closely associated with memoires of that person?
    • Do you want a place that person was happiest?
    • Or somewhere symbolic?
    • That the spouse will wish to be at sometime in the future
    Here is our list of types of location types that could have an impact on your decision e.g. you might think the white cliffs of Dover would be good but it is quite windy and could be dangerous.
    1. Getting permission, once you have an idea of where you would like to scatter you need to get permission. Some places are happy if asked, some locations you don’t need to ask, and others are always no. The easiest place is a public beach or river as you do not need to seek approval. Some landowners have a policy on scattering, we have asked several well know ones and we have their policies recorded – Landowner policy
    2. When do you want to hold the ceremony? It is often nice to tie these things in with an anniversary which can give added symbolism to the occasion. Remember whist British weather is always unpredictable the winter months are the wettest but also from early autumn until spring the wind tends to be stronger (an important factor when scattering)
    3. Who should attend – Close family or a wider group of friends and family which is dependent on the next question?
    4. What sort of ceremony do you want? Your ceremony your choice. This is difficult for many people, with a funeral there are precedents, people will have attend a few and know what they like and dislike. However, with scattering ceremonies people will have attend very few, if any. With a little thought and very little expense you can plan a wonderful ceremony that can celebrate the life of the your loved one. We have put together a few ideas for you to consider so you can have the right ceremony for you.
    5. Lastly, record it, put a note in the ‘family box’ it doesn’t need to be anything fancy. Record where, when, who attended ned and is nice to include why – e.g. ‘We picked Aymer Cove in Devon for George because it was his favourite walk with Bessie our beloved Labrador’ Reason are so clear at the time, but soon forgotten and future generations may wish to know or visit.

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