Do You Need Permission to Scatter Ashes in a Cemetery?

Do You Need Permission to Scatter Ashes in a Cemetery?

A common question asked. I am wondering because I think people probably know the answer already, but are hoping the answer – “It’s fine, just go for it”. However, it is not: do you need permission? The short answer is yes, it is not your land or common land it is owned by the church or the local authority.

I get why people ask the question. Because a ‘yes’ potentially means: hassle, rules and expense. And the thinking is: what difference does it make?

It could be argued that that is true – it doesn’t make any difference really, what does it matter that there is an extra set of ashes in a place that has many sets on already. Environmentally – some issues but in the scheme of things one more won’t make a difference.

However, the simple truth is – it is not your land.

Understanding Cemetery Regulations

Cemeteries, whether they are run by local authorities, churches, or private organisations, are regulated spaces with specific rules and guidelines. These rules are in place to maintain the dignity and order of the site, ensuring that all visitors can find peace and solace during their time there.

Each cemetery may have its own set of regulations when it comes to scattering ashes. For example, some cemeteries may allow it in designated areas only, while others might prohibit it altogether. The key takeaway here is that you cannot simply scatter ashes in a cemetery without first seeking permission.

How to Obtain Permission

The process of obtaining permission to scatter ashes in a cemetery is generally straightforward. Here’s what you need to do:

1. Contact the Cemetery Management: drop a line or call the cemetery’s administration or the governing body responsible for the site. This could be the local council for public cemeteries, the church for churchyards, or a private company for privately owned cemeteries.
2. Understand the Rules: Ask about the specific regulations related to scattering ashes. Some cemeteries may only allow scattering in certain areas, such as memorial or rose gardens (as the ashes can kill the plant) or designated scattering lawns.
3. Obtain Written Permission: Once you’ve discussed your intentions and understood the rules, you will typically need to obtain written permission. This might involve filling out a form and/or paying a small fee, depending on the cemetery.
4. Plan the Ceremony: Fingers crossed this will be allowed, so after receiving permission, you can plan your scattering ceremony. It’s a good idea to coordinate with the cemetery to ensure the timing and location align with their guidelines.

Why Permission is Important

There are several reasons why permission is essential when scattering ashes in a cemetery:

• Respect for the Site: Cemeteries are places of respect and remembrance. Adhering to their rules helps maintain the sanctity of the site for all visitors.
• Environmental Considerations: Scattering ashes in certain areas could have environmental impacts. Cemeteries manage this to ensure the area remains healthy and beautiful.
• Legal Implications: this may seem a bit ‘whatever’ but it means that the last resting place of your loved one won’t be recorded if you just nip over the wall.

Alternatives to Scattering Ashes in a Cemetery

If you find that a cemetery does not allow the scattering of ashes, or if the process seems too restrictive, there are alternatives to consider:

• Scattering of Water:   you don’t need license or permission to scatter on the rivers in the UK …. Or the sea. Just remember nothing polluting can go in the water with ashes – plastic, flower oasis etc
• Natural Burial Grounds: These sites offer a more eco-friendly option and may have more relaxed rules about scattering ashes, though permission is still typically required.
• Private Land: With the landowner’s consent, you may scatter ashes on private property, such as a family garden or a favourite spot of the deceased.

Conclusion

In summary, we advise you to follow the rules and obtain permission when scattering in a cemetery. This ensures that the process is conducted respectfully and legally, preserving the dignity of the site for all who visit.