How to Write a Eulogy (with a Touch of Scattering)
Writing a eulogy is one of the most personal and meaningful acts you can do for someone you’ve lost. It’s your chance to capture their spirit — to share who they were, what they loved, and how they touched the lives of others. When scattering ashes is part of the farewell, the tone often shifts from formal remembrance to something more open, natural, and heartfelt — a reflection of life’s beautiful impermanence.
Start with the Heart
Begin by thinking about the person, not the occasion. What made them them? Was it their humour, kindness, stubborn streak, or sense of adventure? Jot down memories that feel vivid — a shared joke, a favourite place, a phrase they always used. These moments will give your eulogy warmth and authenticity.
Shape the Story
A simple structure helps:
Introduction – who you are and your connection.
Their Life – key milestones and qualities.
Memories – personal stories that capture their essence.
Farewell – words of closure or reflection.
Keep it natural — it’s a story, not a CV. A few minutes is usually enough.
Tone and Language
Scattering ceremonies often take place outdoors — by the sea, a river, or on a favourite hill — so speak in a tone that fits the setting. Let your words feel grounded and sincere. You can weave in nature: “As we scatter his ashes to the wind, may his laughter travel with it.”
End with Meaning
Finish with something that connects the person to the moment — a short poem, a line from a song they loved, or your own goodbye. The scattering itself can become part of the eulogy: a shared pause as everyone releases their memories together.
A good eulogy doesn’t have to be perfect — it just has to be true. Speak from the heart, and you’ll honour them beautifully.