What to say while scattering ashes
Picking the right words to say when scattering ashes can seem daunting, but with a bit of preparation and thought it isn’t too tricky can be very cathartic. What you are looking to do is capture the essence of the person, without waffling or getting too upset.
With a scattering ceremony there is less formality then a funeral and less need to conform to a formula. The words said can take many forms: a eulogy, a poem, a quote or saying or a combination of all of these – it is your scattering ceremony it is your choice
When you prepare you talk keep a few things in mind:
- be personal
- stay positive
- keep it brief
Write you thoughts down before you speak, as those that come ‘straight from the heart’ rarely live up to how you think they will a certainly never like in the movies, often descending into a ramble where big chunks get missed out. Also people ask for them afterward and they are quite wonderful documents in their own right.
What to include
Start with a little history – where they were born, parents, where they lived (get dates right), what they did.
Next a poignant or funny memory – family holidays are a rich source of material.
What their life meant, their loves and passions.
I think it is nice to say something they taught you.
Then you may ask other to contribute (wise to tell them prior to the occasion so they don’t come out with something trite) – our toasting cups came make a nice added extra – where you fill the cups with ashes and instead of toasting you cast the cup full of ashes.
We do a free order of service to give you some ideas.
What to say when scattering ashes