Here is how to scatter ashes? Here are 5 ways to make your ceremony even more memorable
- Casting: is the act of throwing the cremation ashes to the wind or usually just called scattering. There are a number of thing you should consider.
- they are more ashes than you realise they can cover quite an area, they are made up of large grain size to dust and therefore some will be carried easily on the wind.
- we would suggest you invest in a scattering tube or urn they are far more dignified than the plastic container you receive from the crematorium. There is no absolute need, here is our selection of scattering urns, if that is something you think who help
- keep the urn below waist height to minimise where the ashes can blow to
- make sure party members are up wind, often not considered and it can cause distress in the ashes blow on to people
- don’t just turn the container upside down unless you have a rake, it can be quite undignified should you then need level the ashes.
Do you physical touch the ashes? – This is up to you, many people find this too distressing or macabre, other think it is a final connection, it is always wise to discuss such matters up front to minimise nerves or apprehension.
- Ringing Ashes: Scatter the ashes in a ring shape on the ground or around an object e.g. a tree or in a clearing. Hold the scattering urn close to the ground. One nice idea is for participants to enter the ring to speak about the deceased.
- Trenching or Beaching: Using a paddle hoe or something similar carve a niche or small trench in the beach, either a line shape or pattern, then empty you scatter tube into the trench. Choose a spot below the high-tide line, cover if you wish and wait until the tide disperse the sashes.
Warning don’t do it above the high tide line and try to stay away from the beach entry / exit point. You could get disturbed. Here is the tide timetable if it helps.
- Toasting: everybody attending the ceremony holds a toasting cup and in the same way after a speech you might toast someone, you scatter them. After someone has spoken about your loved one, holding onto the cup everyone scatters /throws /flings some the contents of the cup in the required direction. The cups are refilled as required until the end of the speeches or the ashes have run out. Very celebratory and lovely for participation.
- Raking: this is the practise used in gardens of remembrance at a crematoria, by using a rake you can disperse the ashes equally – this will allow for faster integration with the soil and better consistency. This may be the method if scattering in your own garden.